13Apr16

Proverbs 12:8
There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Our words have so much power. In our lives. In our relationships. In our workplace. It amazes me when I watch some people try to motivate others through degrading remarks or through fear. Neither of these have a lasting impact or get the result that is intended. Instead they damage. They leave lasting marks on the souls of people. Yes, your words have the potential to scar someone's soul. But, we don't mind that much. We go into conversations like they are a battleground to be won or lost. When a conversation becomes a competition rather than communication no one wins.

But, there is an opposing force to the words of anger, blame, and death... healing. Researchers have said that it takes five positive interactions to recover from one negative one. 5:1. That's not good odds in our favor. It's no wonder we walk around in a haze of depression, mourning the loss of ourselves, hoping that someone somewhere will love us. That's why I love reading the Bible daily. It's my love story. It tells me who I can be and how much I am loved. It tips the scales for me. But, what is coming out of your mouth? Are your words killing the people around you just so you can accomplish some task that is eternally meaningless or are you storing up treasure by investing in the lives of others and building them up?

If you keep running into arguments headlong and walk away feeling empty... this is why. Stop trying to win at all costs, bury the ego a bit, and find the right answer instead of just your answer. Bring healing. Be wise.